I would like to share some pictures with you from our weekend:
Their cabin is always very welcoming!
Don't you just love the decorations around the outside of the cabin?
Fairies watch over us there . . .
As do cats and . . .
No small creature gets left without a home!
Wrens and other birds love the food that Barb lovingly placed everywhere for them.
and they even have a place to take a bath.
And I bet there is a magical place inside that tree.
I would like to share my "people" pictures:
Here's Katie, Aunt Karen, and Barb!
Anne with that wonderful smile!
Dad and Anne going fishing. (he took Katie at this age right in this very spot!!!)
Aunt Karen and Katie
Karen, Sharon, and Barb: BFF's!
Aunt Karen and Anne sharing the glider.
Now for the really fun part - the bonfire!!!
Anne's really getting into the fun.
Looks like everyone is enjoying the fire!
My favorite photo of the two of them!
More pics of the fun!
Katie and Anne being silly . . .
Surprise! Our evening ended by being able to watch a firework display through the trees!!
Ouch!!!!! (these are the kinds of things I will really miss!)
Me and my girls!!!!!
Aunt Kar with Katie!
And finally, one last photo of Anne playing in the sand!
More thoughts on my relationship with Katie: my first born:
I must be honest. I would love to say that I am happy for her that sheis going on to become the grown woman that we brought her up to be. But in all honesty, I know that I will missKatie. My heart aches to have, once again, that every day, mother-daughter relationshipthat we had when she was growing up.
Bringing up Katie and getting to know her as she became the woman she is today,has affected me deeply and meant more to me that I could have ever known. Seeing her life, herinspiration and courage, and her commitment to things as she grew up, has changed my life more than any human could everexpect a life to change. ♥
So, what do I do now?
I found instructions on the web at ehow.com:
1)Let yourself cry. It's natural to feel a sense ofloss and sadness when the last child leaves home, so don't try to ignore thesefeelings. Acknowledge the sadness and let yourself cry for a few minutes whenyou feel the urge to -- but don't lie in bed and sob all day. Allow yourself tofeel the sadness for a few minutes, then think about something positive, likethe accomplishment of having successfully raised your children.
2)Lean on your partner, family, and friends.You've been busy and distracted taking care of the children; now is the time tothink about yourself and your other relationships. Go out to lunch with afriend you haven't seen in a while, or go for a long walk with your husband.Don't let yourself talk too much about the children. Focus instead ondiscussing each others' interests or current events. According to a study doneby the Association for Psychological Science, many women enjoy their marriages more once the children are gone.
3)Get busy with activities. Now thatyou don't have to devote all your time to parenting, think about improvingyourself and helping people around you. Sign up for yoga or art lessons, orstart volunteering.These activities will help distract you from missing the child and may help youmeet new people.
4)Rearrangeyour home. Don't remove all photos of your children,but don't let your refrigerator be a shrine to them. Post reminders aboutupcoming events that you're looking forward to or artwork that makes you happy.And now is the time to make changes to your home that weren't possible while itwas full of children. Turn the messy rec room into a living room, or start converting a child's bedroom into the art studioyou've always dreamed of. Even small changes like putting a vase of flowers inthe kitchen can help you appreciate having your home back for yourself.
5)Get in touch with your child once you'veadjusted to them being gone. You don't want to make incessant phone calls fromthe minute the last child leaves, but after a few days of separation, you cancall to check in. Arrange a communication schedule with each child. Agree thatyou'll have a phone conversation each Sunday, or that you'll keep in touchprimarily through emails or texts. You may also want to keep in touch throughweb chats, so buy a web cam if your computer isn't already equipped with one.
6)Plan the next get-together. Schedulea weekend to visit one with your child, or plan activities for the Thanksgivingvisit when everyone will be home. Looking forward to the next time you'll allbe together will keep you from being sad that you're apart right now.
Pretty good words of advice, I thought! I still have that ache in my heart, but I am very happy for Katie and I know now that I am going to be OK. ♥
Thanks so much for coming by my blog today, my dear friends! ♥♥♥